Sunshine

Hello sunshines! How is everyone today.

Things are going well here at the Diva-in-Training house. The kids are learning, the laundry is going, the dishes aren't piled anywhere all in all we have success so far. I think that the major thing I have learned while trying to become that "perfect" wife is that keeping on top of things is better than letting them go and doing one big job. If I take the 5 min to wipe down the counters and do the dishes while I am making dinner, the after dinner clean up is a breeze. Little things that you don't think will help really do help a lot.

The girls are doing great. I am so amazed at how smart they both are. I sometimes hate to brag about them, I worry that people will think that I am making things up, or holding them to standards that they can't live up to. In reality I feel like I am not doing enough to keep up with how much they are capable of learning. So my project for next week is to really get some plans in place for school here at home.

Yeah, so I'm a slacker.

The good news is that I have been keeping on track with become the housewife that is impossible to become. The bad news is that I have totally neglected to tell anyone about how I am getting there.

Why? This stuff is hard. How do those women do it, keep a perfect house, stay in perfect shape, have hobbies and interests outside the house, help their children grow into respectable people, and keep a husband happy? The answer is a little of two things. a) they don't or b) they are planners. I am hoping to become one of the planners.

The more time that I spend trying to get a grasp on what I want to do with my life the more I feel like I have a million different directions that I want to go. Perfect mom, of course, Amazing wife no doubt. But what do I want to do to fulfill me? Take pictures? I do love beautiful pictures, but even with all I do I have never seen myself as artistic. Become a real actual historian? For some reason this hit me last night. I feel the desire to become the historian of the military wife/family. There are a million books about what happened during the battles, and even the letters home, but what about the development of the job that it is to be a military wife?

So I sit here and contemplate the future, while my girls dance around me in their tu-tu's and remember that no matter what, family will be first, and I have time to decide what my calling in life is.

A few thoughts

My journey to establishing myself as a domestic diva is full of ups and downs already. There are days when I get things done so quickly and easily that I begin to wonder why I never did this before. Then there are days when I get so far behind that I wonder if this is a totally futile effort. I am sure that these ups and downs are a part of the process. My hope is that the good days begin to out number the bad, that they begin to take over.

Things that I have learned this week. Large projects are fun, but they need to be taken with caution. When you want to do a big project you need to not only think about whether or not you have the time to complete the project, but if you have the time to complete the project while still doing your normal goals. When I was done with the projects I looked up to realize that I had let the house go. I had been so involved in these extras that I forgot to keep up with the normal.

So my mistakes are your learning experience. Have a wonderful domestic week.

The DIT

Let's start at the very beginning.......

The most important thing to have is a plan. The plan might not work, in fact the plan might fail miserably, but at least you went into things with an idea of where you wanted to come out of them. So I figure today is the day to start with a plan.

First of all I have been using the FLYlady method of house keeping for the last year and it has worked wonders. However I have decided that for me I need to do some basic alterations. If you want to check out the original look here. http://flylady.net

I have decided that I will line out goals, daily, weekly, monthly, etc. I need to see where I am going, and have a marker for how far I have come. One thing that I do want to stress is that it is no use making goals if they are unrealistic. It is one thing to say that I want to get in shape this year, it is another to say that I want to lose 7lbs a week. (at least at my weight it is) So realistic goals is the important thing.

Am I going to share all of these goals? Nope. I don't want them to influence the goals that you set for yourself. Everyone has a different view of what their ideal life would look, and what is the most important thing for them to accomplish. If you go into an organization plan trying to use someone else's goals, that were set to fit someone else's life you are destined to fail before you even start.

Have a great day, and happy planning.

New Year, New Me

It is time to get on the resolution band wagon. This year I am resolving to become the kind of housewife I am in my dreams. I want to put the kind of effort into my home that I would put into a job. I am constantly telling people that being a Stay-at-Home Mom is a full time job, but I never approach it that way. As a result I feel like I am constantly 2 steps behind where I need to be. This constant battle to get ahead leaves me feeling inadequate and unfulfilled.

I am going to start this year with the goal to start to feel like I am excellent at my job. I want to feel like I have the type of home that people want to visit and the kind of children that people want to be around. I also want to feel like I am the kind of woman that people want to be around. I feel like even if I get my home and children in order but look harried and unkempt it will be a wasted effort.

I know that this will not be easy, I have years of complacent habits to undo, and a million good habits to start adding to my daily life. I also know that it can't be done all at once. I need to make changing my outlook on life a constant thought.

So if you are trying to change your life in a positive way please join me on this journey. It will be a learning experience for everyone involved. I know that there will be days when I feel like a failure, I just hope that they are interspersed with days when I feel like I am making strides towards my goal.